All primary caregivers of young children are blessed with moments that may not be a “blessing.” These activities can include whining, high-pitched shrieking, and being witness to catastrophic temper tantrums over virtually nothing. They are also familiar with cleaning vomit, diapers, and rushing to bandage scraped knees. We work through these tough moments because we love our children. But why does it seem that children are the most misbehaved when they’re around their mothers?

Children behave differently to get the attention they crave

If your children seem to be prone to throwing fits and generally not listening, you’ve likely been shocked when others rave about their good behavior. Maybe it’s the babysitter reporting that your children were perfect angels and ready for bed by 8:00 p.m. sharp. Or maybe their teacher has nothing but good things to say about their listening skills and interactions with other children. Do you ever wonder who on earth this is that they’re talking about? Because they certainly can’t be yours. The reason – children naturally act up to get the attention of those they love most.

Children save the best and worst for us

Children’s true selves come out with parents. It takes energy to be good and follow the rules, especially for young children. When they get home, they let it all out. The good news is that their most profound love, affection, admiration, and goofiness are reserved for you, too.

Why does their worst side show most often in front of mom?

Your children act up more in front of you because they feel comfortable, safe, and supported. If you think about it, you don’t like to display your worst self in front of strangers. You likely reserve the breakdowns for your spouse, close siblings, or your mom. The same goes for your children. You make them feel loved and secure to know you’re still going to love them unconditionally even when misbehaving in front of you.

All in all, there are going to be moments of childhood chaos reserved only for you. But there are also going to be moments when your children shine the brightest for you, and those moments make all the screams, tantrums, and fiascos worth it.

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